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January 29, 2026 Paid subscribers

Cultivating Community in a Kingdom That Expands

From the helplessness of isolation to the authority of encounterable love

Loneliness is everywhere right now—not just as a feeling, but almost as a posture people live inside. It shows up as resignation: I don’t have my people. There’s nothing here. I’m stuck. Surrounded, yet unseen. Connected digitally, but unrooted bodily and relationally.

Some of this is undeniably real. We are fragmented. Dislocated. Many have moved cities, lost extended family, lost shared rhythms. Church often feels more like programming than place. Neighborhoods feel anonymous. Everyone is busy, guarded, and tired.

But beneath the loneliness conversation, there’s a quieter assumption shaping how people respond to it—one that quietly drains agency.

We’ve come to believe that community is something you find, instead of something you cultivate.

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