AI Is Quietly Eroding Your Attention. Here's the Fix.

The real risk of these tools was never that they would take our jobs. It is quieter than that, and closer in. They can take our thinking, a little at a time, in a way that never feels like losing anything. You have a hard question, and instead of staying with it you hand it over, and the answer comes back clean and quick, and you take it and move on. Nothing seems lost, because the thing you gave away does not announce that it is going. It simply stops being there one day when you reach for it, and by then you already have a story ready about being busy.

I am not writing this from the outside. I have built more of my working life around these tools than almost anyone I know, and there are mornings I reach for the machine before I have had a single thought of my own. The tell is always the same, a small relief where there should have been resistance, and that relief is pleasant, which is exactly what makes it dangerous. Avoidance never feels like avoidance. It feels like efficiency, right up until the day you find you can no longer do the thing you used to do without help.

So I have started paying close attention to the difference between using these tools in a way that leaves me sharper and using them in a way that quietly does my thinking for me. The strange part is that the fix turned out not to be less AI. It was a way of using it that costs me more.

A way to use it that costs you more

There is a simple method for it, four moves, with the acronym CRIT: context, role, interview, task.

Context is where you give the machine the whole real situation instead of a one-line question, everything from what has already been tried to what is actually at stake, and gathering all of that is itself an act of thinking. Most of the real work happens before you ever hit enter.

Role is where you tell it exactly what kind of expert to become, described vividly and specifically, because to ask for the right guide you first have to know what you are actually looking for.

Interview is the one that matters. Before the machine answers anything, you tell it to interview you, one question at a time, until it has drawn out of you the things you did not know you needed to say. You stop asking it questions and let it question you instead, and a good question, the kind you would never have thought to ask yourself, does something to a person that an answer never can.

Only after all of that comes the Task, and even then you treat what it hands back as a first draft to argue with rather than a verdict to accept, telling it what is wrong and what is missing and what has to change.

Notice which way the exchange runs. In the ordinary use of these tools the machine works and you receive. Done this way, the machine works you. Your effort goes up rather than down, and what comes back is raw material for your own judgment instead of a conclusion handed to you to swallow.

The friction was never the enemy

Underneath all of this is one idea worth saying plainly. The friction of thinking is not a flaw to be engineered away. It is the place where a person is actually formed. We have been taught to treat difficulty as inefficiency, something to route around, but difficulty is precisely where an insight gets made, and where a decision stops being borrowed and becomes yours. You become someone by staying inside a hard thing long enough to be changed by it.

“Do not be conformed to this world,” Paul wrote, “but be transformed by the renewal of your mind” (Rom 12:2). Renewal, not delivery. The mind is not updated the way software is. It is worked, slowly and usually against resistance, and the resistance is not in the way of the work. The resistance is the work.

Remove the waiting and you do not get the same person a little faster. You get a different person, one who has never had to hold anything unresolved long enough for it to change them. So make the machine ask before it answers, not mainly because the answer improves, though it will, but because every time you refuse the easy relief and stay in the hard thing a little longer, you are practicing the oldest discipline there is, which is simply the willingness to remain. Wisdom was never the reward for the fastest answer. It is what is left of everything we refused to skip.

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