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May 27, 2025 Paid subscribers

From Cowering to Conviction:

Rethinking the Fear of the Lord

A woman sat in my office, hands trembling as she described checking and rechecking her prayers. "What if I didn't mean it enough? What if God is angry because my mind wandered?" She's been taught that "fearing God" means walking on eggshells around a divine authority ready to withdraw love at any moment.

Another client described years of believing demons lurk behind every spiritual misstep, that insufficient vigilance invites supernatural attack.

Both learned to fear God. Neither learned to fear Him well.

This confusion is epidemic, causing real harm in religious communities and therapy offices alike. The problem starts with language, deepens through poor spiritual formation, and manifests in everything from religious OCD to spiritual abuse.

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